In his best-selling book, Five Languages of Love, Gary Chapman describes the five primary ways people show love. One of them is by giving gifts. That is my way. I love giving gifts. I mean LOVE. Christmas is my absolute favorite time of year. Find me whistling through the mall and boutiques looking for hours for that perfect gift for my cousin’s new love interest who I barely know. Find me shopping online ordering that specialty item for that specialized hobby of one of my siblings. I stuff stockings to the brim and I wrap presents like a painter paints a watercolor at sunset. I consider it an art.
And I know that I am not alone here. Giving to others is part of our nature as humans, I believe. At our core, every human wants to love and be loved. Giving is a way of showing love. It is also a way of showing appreciation, a way of saying thanks, and a way of caring for another if they are in need. The item given is irrelevant if the intention is sincere.
I was tickled recently when a new friend burst into my hotel room clutching so many bags and boxes he could hardly manage them. In front of me was an enormous pile of beautiful and obviously carefully chosen gits and a man with a mile-wide beaming smile saying “I really love doing this. I just enjoy giving beautiful things to people.” He delighted, like a child, as I opened each one. With that I knew he was my people, as the saying goes. He was one who showed his affections through gift-giving.
I don’t expect gifts from any of my clients. Not at all. Just coming to see me and spending time with me is a gift, a great one. If I tout a wishlist, it’s for those who love to give gifts so they have an idea where to start. It sure helps when you know what the person you are buying for likes.
Often I wish my clients had a website with a page called GIFTS outlining their sizes and favorite material things. If you are one of my extra, extra special clients (and I hope you know who you are) feel free to drop hints or leave a list on the hotel desk come December or your birthday month. (Seriously)!