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Escort Ettiquette For Neophytes

There is a first time for everything; we have all been a beginner at everything we do. Famously, the first time we do something is remembered as the best time or, at least the most memorable time, for years to come. Here is how to make that true of meeting an escort. Included are tips to help with your selection of a companion, ease your nervousness when it comes time to meet one another, how maximize your satisfaction from the experience, and to make the lovely lady tickled to have made your acquaintance and you hers.

Companion Selection

I recommend taking  your time selecting a companion, keeping in mind that many quality companions require a week’s notice to schedule, and that this experience should be like a small vacation for you. You wouldn’t schedule your precious free time on a whim or even hastily. Remember also (you will like this one) that there are many women to chose from, especially in a medium or large city. If I were to be searching for an escort in New York City, I can easily imagine myself browsing ads for a week or more. Eventually, that stand-out-must-have woman will be spotted.

How To Get Lucky

No escort says yes to every invitation they receive. First impressions are important. For this you will need proper screening items and an introduction as to who you are is always helpful and sometimes required.

Make sure you have read her website entirely, focusing on the screening requirements, and her calendar. You can save yourself a lot of time by checking her calendar before inviting her to meet you when she is half a world away. Escorts travel- a lot!

In your introductory email, or when you fill out her appointment form, make sure to include all of your screening info which will be your employment information since you are new to this, with no references from other escorts. This information will  be used to stalk you at your workplace and sold to a sophisticated ring of identity thieves.

So, seriously: escorts are trained in discretion. I have always believed that If you have a secret, an escort is the only one you can 100% trust with it.

Besides, there are checks and balances in place in the escort industry. A  lady who is indiscreet would quickly be outed. And remember- you have done your homework so you can be confident in the discretion of your selection.

What does an escort do with my employment information? Most require your full, legal name and place of work, at minimum. They may want to call you at work cloaked as the cleaners or whoever you have requested them to be. Or they may have you email them at their own separate and discreet address from your work address. All of this will be clearly explained to you, and in the end, it’s as if nothing happened except now you are ready to meet this seemingly amazing woman and do this curious thing that you have wondered about since you found out it existed.

If you find yourself feeling nervous, ask the lady to delete your information  after verification. While they can feel impersonal to this personal endeavor, Contact Forms are often encrypted and auto deleted. This is true of Veda Designs contact forms which is what a sizable slice of ladies on the internet today use. Contact Forms by Veda have a default 30 day auto delete setting.

(Observation: It is a natural fear to give all of your information to anyone you do not know, especially to someone in this industry which you have never partaken. However, I find time and time again, their clients, not escorts, are the party that is often inadvertently indiscreet. Escorts have a lot of experience with being discreet and even invisible. They have nothing to gain and everything to lose by mistreating your information. Please use common sense and password protect everything, clear your history, and don’t forget to log out of email and from adult websites).


Groom like you would for any first date. I stress some extra trimming and shaving in two areas but no need to go bald. Wear whatever makes you comfortable. Buy a bottle of wine to share with your soon to be lady friend, if you think it will help yo to relax.

You’re In

It’s the day of your date. You’re nervous and excited. Or you aren’t nervous at all but just looking forward to what you hope is a good time, with some skepticism perhaps. Either way there is an etiquette to all of this.

When you arrive at her place or when she arrives at yours, take care of payment right away. This is important and there is a very specific way to to do it:

  • If she is coming to your place, it is customary to put the envelope with her fees on the bathroom vanity. Invite her to use the bathroom when she arrives. She will want to freshen up for you besides.
  • If you are going to her place, simply come in, take off your coat, and place the envelope on the table, plainly in view.
  • Some escorts have different ways they like to receive payment. That is why reading her entire website before meeting her always works to your benefit.

Your next move is to wash your hands at minimum, or take a shower at maximum. If you are hosting, you can have this done beforehand. If she is hosting, even if you have recently showered, it is important to wash your hands. This is very often overlooked in my experience. I chalk it up to the old  ‘boys will be boys’ adage. (I was surprised when realized that the saying was applicable to not only boys but men as well. Sorry, guys. I still love ya).

Hygiene is of paramount importance. If it has been an eight-hour work day when you meet, a shower is in order. Hand washing is always in order. The safest way to play, according to my research, is for both parties to shower before and after the encounter.

Letting Your Hair Down

Don’t forget that this is finally ME time for you. What a concept! Want a shoulder rub,  a bath, to be tied to the chandelier or to dance naked on the bed? Just ask for it. Request a fantasy outfit or one you like from the pictures. Let things flow naturally or follow her lead. Have fun! For your comfort, it is customary for many escorts to have available at their In Call such things as fresh fruit or other snacks, bottled water, wine, and even toiletries for men. Come with what you need as there is, of course, not a universal standard here.

You’re Out

If everything went well, you should feel slightly elated and urges to smile throughout the day. Maybe your heart had a flash of longing as soon as she walked out the door and down the hall (totally normal and fleeting). You’re wondering when you can see her again. You feel lighter knowing you are never obligated to!

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