When you meet an escort, are you ever curious about their personal lives but afraid to ask? I suggest not asking, as a general rule, unless the provider offers the information. Many providers don’t want you to know anything beyond their stage name, their rates, and their menu which is, of course, understandable and needs to be respected. I am more open than some providers as I am 100% certain that I will never a.) run for office, b.) become a teacher, or c.) apply for a job (self-employment is my one and only path). So here is everything you may have wanted to know about me but have been afraid to ask. Read up and that way, when we next meet, we can skip the small talk and get right to the, ahem, dancing 🙂
Q: Do you have a boyfriend or a lover?
A: Yes, you, my beloved & cherished client! I have boyfriends by the hour. Ok, ok – truly, I do not. I don’t think that escorting mixes well with romantic relationships and so I am a single lady. I have dated in the past while escorting and it was (understandably) very hard for my lover to accept and understand my work and so I have vowed to remain single while I am in this industry. I’m not lonely yet!
Q: Do you have any kids?
A: No kids of my own but I love them and am eagerly waiting for my little brother and his girlfriend to get pregnant so I can be Favorite Auntie. That is going to be one spoiled baby! When I marry, I may decide to have children but I believe I would adopt since there are so many children already here who need love. I have always known that I would adopt or giving birth, even as a young girl.
Q: Do you have siblings?
A: I am the oldest of three. I have a brother and a sister and I am very close to both of them.
Q: Do you want to get married someday?
A: Yes, I do but I am not in a hurry. I am a very traditional woman in many ways. I figure the longer I wait to get married, the least likely I will get divorced. This is practical and not romantic in any way, I know. Just stating the facts.
Q: How did you get into this?
A: It all started in 2000 which is when I moved to California and discovered the now extinct Erotic Services section of Craigslist. I was intrigued and enthralled with the escort ads. I wondered what these ladies were like and what their job was like. I eventually responded to an ad for an adult modeling gig. It was for a (very!) soft porn site where cute, young girls performed strip teases. I was making $100/hour posing while eating cherries in short shorts. I never even got fully nude. I was 20 years old. It was easy money and good for my self confidence. I realized I loved being in front of the camera and also that being wanted by men was a HUGE turn on for me. I continued to do adult modeling gigs for about 7 years, eventually specializing in BDSM shoots. I never did straight up porn but I always thought it was only a matter of time before I took the plunge. Actually, it was only a matter of time before I discovered Redbook. I spent countless hours on that site and reading up on escorting – everything from ‘How To’ online books and articles to escort blogs. I wrote a business plan, signed up for massage classes, cranked up my workouts, hired a photographer, and waited until exactly the right moment. I knew I had to be ready emotionally and have all of my ducks in a row which included selling a business. My Redbook debut was in October of 2010. Becoming an escort and a sensual massage therapist has been one of the best and most rewarding decisions I have ever made. I consider this work a calling and I am grateful for it.
Q: What did you do before this?
A: I have an eclectic work history to say the least! I studied English with a Creative Writing concentration and so when I graduated, I pursued professional writing. I ate Ramen, scraped by, and wrote things like script for video games, various blogs, and online ad text for certain large corporations I best not mention here. I moved onto marketing in the corporate world but I didn’t quite fit in there. I loved marketing and was good at it but the corporate culture did not suit me or more likely it was I who did not suit the corporate culture. I was a waitress for many, many years and yes, it IS a character building job. I was a preschool teacher and a nanny which were both incredibly meaningful jobs. I started a small, service industry business, grew it, and sold it to my biggest competitor just before becoming an escort. I currently do non-sensual massage in addition to sex work. My preferred modality is Thai Bodywork.
Q: What will you do in 5 or 10 years?
A: I realize that sex work has an expiration date but I’d like to continue in this field for 4-5 more years. I am in grad school now so hopefully I will be using my degree, which is practical (unlike my English degree) and lends well to many avenues of fulfilling and high paying self employment. I also plan to continue my Thai massage practice and focus on the clinical aspects of it. I want to heal people. Massage and touch are my passions as is building businesses. I will always be my own boss.
Q: What do you like sexually?
A: I like to take my time but sometimes I like a quick, hard… Stimulating conversation is sexually arousing to me. Foreplay is a must! I love deep, slow kissing and a long, playful tease. I love oral sex (especially giving but also receiving), maybe more than penetration but stress on the maybe. I like to explore the entire body and touch the parts that do not typically get touched (insert your imagination here). Mutual massage with oil is heaven. Kissing from head to toe or toe to head is a dream. Sometimes, I like to be kinky but I find myself becoming more and more vanilla. When the kinky mood strikes me, I like to play with blindfolds, ropes & restraints, paddles, and anal toys. Oh, and dirty talk; I love that, but I can be shy until we’ve gotten to know each other.
Q: What do you like to do in your free time?
A: Truth be told, I am a bit of a workaholic and my “free” time is often spent practicing massage, writing, updating my websites, and lots of studying, which I enjoy. I am also a home body. I love cooking, a hot bath and a good book. I don’t have TV and so my mindless entertainment comes from browsing the web and AM talk radio which I listen to obsessively. I spend a lot of time walking in San Francisco, and a little time eating out here, dancing in clubs, and seeing art shows. Above all, I love yoga. Yoga is first on my list whenever I have free time. I try to practice 4-6 times per week at a studio and daily at home. I do love to travel and once every year, I like to get out of the states and explore the world. Wow, I sound so busy but I pride myself on having regular free time to do nothing, which I do. I guess I am just a passionate person who loves a lot of things.
Q: There is something else I want to know. How do I find out?
A: Send me an email and I will add the question and answer to this blog entry and email the response to you. I can’t guarantee I will be comfortable answering every question that comes my way but as the saying goes, if you don’t ask the question, you’ll never know the answer.